Life can be beautiful. And also painful from time to time. We may experience criticism and rejection, injustice and disappointments, conflict and crises. Children are not stupid. They learn how to survive when life hurts, developing survival strategies. It has a big advantage: the child survives. It also has a number of disadvantages if we…

(1) Share your facts We often start by sharing our conclusions, which are often ill founded, rather than the facts that led to our conclusions. Gathering the facts is the homework required for crucial conversation. If you want to share your story, don’t start with it. Start with facts. (2) Tell your story This can…

Clever stories allow us to feel good about behaving badly even while achieving abysmal results. Victim stories «It is not my fault» – We are innocent sufferers– We ignore the role we play in contributing to the problem– We have nothing but the most noble intentions Villain stories «It is all your fault» – We…

1. Discover your purpose in life  E.g. using the Japanese Ikigai-model to map out your Passion, Mission, Vocation and Profession. I.e. that which you love, that which to world needs, that which you can be paid for and that which you are good at. Determine the reason you wake up each morning. Choose something that…

“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.” — James Openheim Being able to adapt to different situations, tasks, or workplace cultures is a good quality. But if you bend more and more just to fit into a given situation, a particular job, or the culture that rules…

“The people whose lives you touch may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” — David B. Haight Many people with lived experience say the same thing: “It’s not the things we did, but the things we didn’t do in life that we regret.”Sure, but what good does…