How often do we notice someone who looks very down, or bored? Perhaps someone whose job is very repetitive or someone whose boss doesn’t give him or her much recognition? Maybe it’s a store clerk, or the mailman, or our hair dresser.
What could we say to that person to cheer them up?
We could think of something about them that we honestly admire. This might sometimes be difficult with a stranger, but we should push ourselves to think of something, and mention it to them.
Why not?
When Carnegie describes having this type of interactions with a stranger, he notes that many people have asked him what he was trying to get out of the person.
His response challenge me deeply:
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«If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can’t radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return – if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve.» (Dale Carnegie)
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In other words, we should all be happy – and excited – to do something for someone else when they can’t do anything for us in return.
Maybe life is as simple as this: The one all-important law of human conduct is to always make the other person feel important.
At least this reflects the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
Are we up for this challenge?
Let’s NIKE it: Just Do It!
Find someone who doesn’t appear to be having a good day – perhaps a demotivated colleague, an overworked waitress, or a man selling newspapers on the corner. Go out of your way to offer words of kindness to that person through a genuine compliment.
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Source & Inspiration: «How to Win Friends & Influence People» (Dale Carnegie, Andrew MacMillan, et al.)
DREIESKIVA|Roald Kvam 
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