World famous psychologist B.F. Skinner proved that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much faster and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior.
This principle applies to humans as well: Criticizing others doesn’t yield anything positive.
We aren’t able to make real changes by criticizing people, and we’re instead often met with resentment.
We often forget that when we’re dealing with people, we’re dealing not with creatures of pure logic, but emotion as well. Yes, we can connect the dots, but honestly: We are motivated by pride and ego.
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«Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes them strive to justify themselves.» (Dale Carnegie)
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Do you know someone you would like to change in some way? When you find yourself getting caught up in other people’s annoying habits or behaviors, think of a few reasons they might be acting the way they are.
Say to yourself, “I should forgive them for this because …” and conclude this sentence with an open mind. You’ll be in a much better position to hold back from criticizing.
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Source & Inspiration: «How to Win Friends & Influence People» (Dale Carnegie, Andrew MacMillan, et al.)
DREIESKIVA|Roald Kvam 
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