DREIESKIVA​|Roald Kvam

A good coach is more than just someone who gives advice or expertise. They are a catalyst for growth, empowering individuals and teams to unlock their potential and achieve sustainable results. While the specific skills and approaches might vary depending on the context (personal/professional, sport/business/spiritual), several core qualities define an effective coach:

A focus on the coachee

• Client-centered: The session is about the coachee’s agenda, not the coach’s. A good coach prioritizes the coachee’s needs, goals, and well-being.
• Belief in potential: They genuinely believe in the coachee’s ability to find their own solutions and grow, even when the coachee might doubt themselves.
• Empowerment: Instead of «telling,» a good coach uses questions to guide the coachee to their own insights and actions, fostering autonomy and ownership.

Exceptional communication and listening skills

• Active listening: They listen intently, not just to the words, but to the emotions, body language, and unspoken messages. They aim to understand deeply before responding.
• Powerful questioning: They ask open-ended, thought-provoking questions that encourage self-reflection, challenge assumptions, and uncover new perspectives.
• Clear and concise communication: They can articulate ideas clearly, provide constructive feedback, and adapt their communication style to resonate with the coachee.
• Ability to give and receive feedback: They provide feedback that is specific, timely, and actionable, and are also open to receiving feedback themselves to improve their coaching.

Building trust and psychological safety

• Trustworthiness and confidentiality: The coachee must feel safe to be vulnerable and open. A good coach maintains strict confidentiality and acts with integrity.
• Empathy and compassion: They can understand and share the feelings of the coachee, creating a supportive and non-judgmental environment.
• Respect: They show respect for the coachee’s abilities, intentions, and perspectives, even when challenging them.

A growth-oriented and strategic mindset

• Goal-oriented: They help coachees set clear, measurable, and achievable goals, and then work collaboratively to create action plans and strategies.
• Focus on process over outcome (initially): While results are important, a good coach also praises effort, attitude, and learning throughout the process, instilling a growth mindset.
• Curiosity: They are genuinely curious about the coachee’s world, challenges, and aspirations, constantly seeking to understand more.
• Challenge and support: They provide supportive challenge, pushing coachees outside their comfort zones in a safe way to facilitate learning and development.

Professionalism and self-awareness

• Ethical conduct: They adhere to professional standards and always act in the best interests of their clients.
• Self-awareness: Good coaches understand their own biases, emotions, and how they impact their interactions. They continuously reflect on their own approach.
• Commitment to continuous learning: They are lifelong learners, staying updated on best practices, and constantly seeking to improve their own skills and knowledge.
• Patience and positivity: They understand that growth takes time and effort, maintaining an optimistic outlook and inspiring belief in the coachee.

In essence, a good coach is a strategic partner who facilitates self-discovery, promotes accountability, and equips individuals with the tools and mindset to navigate challenges, leverage their strengths, and ultimately achieve their desired personal and professional transformation.